Telling someone the truth can be difficult in itself. Telling someone Gods truth, can cause someone to go to war with you, or they can receive it, and love you just the same . I believe that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
We as Christians are forbidden to judge persons simply because we are very incapable of accurately doing so, and can do damage if we tried. Only God has the full knowledge of a person’s inner life, heart, sufferings, influences, intention, struggles and their motives.
So I have been praying and studying God’s word (Matthew) on something that wounded me pretty bad. A friend had made a strong statement, when confronted with something that I believed to be unloving actions towards me, and untruths that may me feel unworthy and beneath them.
I had been praying and avoiding to face the situation for a while. Hoping they would get it. I was convicted to face the situation. It came down to standing on truth, and possibly losing a friend. Sometimes if we try to seek truth, others would get offended, and feel as if we are judging them. They don’t realize you could have just walked away and never dealt again, or explain why. Then they would have felt wounded to the unknown.
But what does God commands?
15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
God tells us to keep our promises. Matthew 5:37 – Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.
Leviticus 19:11 says, “You must not steal. You must not act deceptively or lie to one another.”
Proverbs 6:16-17 says, “The Lord hates … a lying tongue.”
But God commands us to go to our brethren, right? Surely, we know a lie from a mistake? A mistake is putting salt in your coffee when you thought it was sugar. A lie is a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive. Sometimes they know they are wrong, but may have too much pride to admit truth. The Holy spirit will convict you, but the devil will condemn you.
When you know you have lied and wronged someone, and they seek explanations to heal the wounds or mend the relationship that’s not judgment. No different than a spouse who has cheated. You seek answers. If you feel convicted you will be truthful. If you are condemned then the adversary will utilize pride, and an outlet of one judging you, as a tool to cause division.
Judging persons vs. judging behaviors there is a difference!
I am a sinner who hates my own sins, but I will not take blame, or carry another’s sins. When judgement day comes I will stand alone before God for my actions. I can only be responsible for what I say and do. God closed the wound, and allowed me to share the distinction between judging persons, and judging behaviors.
The devil will deceive you and destroy you if you don’t seek the word and know the difference. If you don’t know God’s word or ever seek it then how can we correct our actions?
Matthew 18:15 15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
Sometimes when one has done wrong, they know it and usually become defensive and began to go in circles. No matter how much you say you love that person, but are now seeking truth for their unloving actions. They must truly value God’s word, themselves, and the relationship. This does not mean they are a bad person, but their actions may have been unreal or unloving.
The term judgement in the bible ” is a translation of the Greek krisis, which refers to decision-making in a situation that requires it. Most people see the word judgement as something evil, condemning, or criticism. I see it as driving out any evil, or Ungodly actions to bring true love and unity back.
I learned that (diakrisis) actually means discernment: enlightened understanding, clear vision, and wise judgment. So in conclusion God had given me peace in taking a stand on His truth, no matter the cost. That person was not willing to answer for their behavior. Remember, God loves the sinner, but hate the sin. We should mimic this. Love the sinner, for we are all sinners, but hate the sin. We are to speak truth and urge the evil to flee.
A Woman After God’s Own Heart ♥